Sly ones

An English version of a post left at the Pantip webboard, by a guy dismayed at the growing number of gays who opt for marriage, but carry on with the gay lifestyle...

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How would you feel, if your father or mother was gay, and was still having sex with gays? I have just come back from a wedding of a gay friend to a woman. I have been thinking a lot about what happens if I get married in the future.

I have many friends older than me who are married, but still lead secret lives as gays. They usually give the reason that they have not done anything wrong...they still care for their families, and love their wives and children. They just desire some time to themselves when they can release the real person inside. They go out to gay nightspots, or buy gay sex. Some even support their gay lovers financially. Many visit gay webboards, looking for friends. Often these liaisons end in sex.

So many gay men have married women that it's hard to believe. Everyone has a good excuse, why we should support them. But I nonetheless feel that what they have done is wrong. They are being unfaithful to their wives, but they manage to carry on without feeling a thing. Perhaps it's because they do not really love their wives and children after all that they are able to behave like this. They do not seem to worry that their wives might be heartbroken if they knew.

Some men get married because they don't want to have to answer questions raised by friends and family. In that case it is hard to believe that they could really love their families, no matter what they may say.

The number of gay men who are married is huge. It is probably even bigger than the number of gays you see in society. They are men who hide in the closet, but who once married, do not give up the gay lifestyle...
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Readers said they knew of friends or teachers who were gay, married, but then quit the gay lifestyle because they decided they loved their families more. To do otherwise, they said, would be too cruel to their wives.