This is the last favour I perform, as I doubt any of them is really willing to help themselves.
Even if I find answers to their questions, will they bother to turn up?
The questions:
If all three turn up looking for casual, piecemeal work, will you accept them?
Is there enough work for them to do all day? If not, how many hours a day, and how many days a week?
How much will they get paid?
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When I visit Ball, I look at his face as much as possible. I still haven’t seen it in all its angles. Or if I have, I want to see them again.
‘He’s handsome, isn’t he?’ a crusty old guy asked me.
He would like to see me have a fling with Mr Ball.
‘Yes, but he has a girlfriend,’ I said.
Ball played football the other day, and was nursing a sore back and ribs. I know he wanted me to massage out those painful spots, but I resisted.
We were sitting at the ya dong stand, so we’d have an audience. Apart from that, I rarely touch him at the moment, unless looking for abrasions on his elbows and knees. I like to pick off old scabs. Call me an old scabby guy if you will, but there it is.
‘Don’t you have any new sores?’ I asked, disappointed. Ball has the finest skin, like porcelain. It shows all bruises, abrasions, and scars, so much so that his Mum does not like him playing football, just in case he hits the ground and marks himself.
‘No...I didn’t fall,’ he said.
‘How annoying,’ I replied.
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When I am work, my work experience seems so vivid that Ball and his family pale into insignificance. When I am at home, I grow bored and restless, and want to see him again.
I would like to split my time between Maiyuu and our lonely lifestyle; and visiting Ball and his family in the slums.
Over there, people are living real lives, even if they are poor and I couldn’t bear to live in such unpleasant surroundings myself.
Home is my bolthole, as all homes are. When Ball and his family get sick of me, they can take comfort in the fact that sooner or later I will have to go home too.
They can go back to living their all-Thai lives, without some farang propped up in their living room.
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Ball’s Mum and I are just days apart in age. While I have no children, while she has four, all of them young adults.
One child, her only daughter, now has a baby of her own. Two are in the workforce (the daughter, and eldest son), and two idle (Ball and his school-aged brother).
How can one person (Mum), have accomplished so much, and another (me) so little?
Maybe I should wait for Maiyuu to die, shack up with Ball's Mum, and be done with all this gay doubting. Would it work?
I could be a Daddy to four adult children...and what an odd bunch we would make.
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ReplyDeleteKevo3325 February 2010 at 19:25
I think maybe it's time to forget this boy and his family. They clearly have no motivation to help themselves- it's much easier to get some sweet Farang to buy them things.
Why not rebuild your relationship with Maiyuu and be happy?
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Bkkdreamer26 February 2010 at 01:00
Reader responses to the story of Ball are getting predictable; I might wind it in soon, as readers appear to be getting bored, or are simply unwilling to engage on a deeper level with the material.
Today is the last time I help the family with matters related to work. If nothing comes of it, I might very well do as you say; or I might carry on visiting them, but just not bring you details on this blog.
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TAO26 February 2010 at 04:24
Bkkdreamer,
Of course your reader responses are getting to be predictable; its because you are also predictable.
So, now you are going to attempt to get the whole family jobs even though we have been down this path before with Ball.
Lets not be surprised if, when you do get the lot of them jobs, that something happens to where they cannot take you up on that one...
There is no doubt that Ball is a beautiful young man and I am sure as a child he was dotted on and adored...
You in turn are now offering him the opportunity to escape back to the world of his childhood...to where he is dotted on and adored.
So, want to teach him a lesson?
Then have sex with him....
Maybe then he will learn that being coddled leads to bad things and that if he doesn't like bad things then he needs to take care of his own life.
Not real sure how else you can make a difference in the lives of these people. It might be time for a little shock therapy...
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Bkkdreamer26 February 2010 at 06:20
I'm not sure that I need to take him to bed to terach him bad things. In any case, his bedroom is too dirty!
I have no doubt that they will fail to take me up on the work offer.
I'll explain it briefly on the blog tomorrow, but in short, the brother-in-law has now found work of his own, which leaves only Ball and his younger brother Beer as potential workers.
Ball could persuade his brother to forget about the idea, so we are back where we started. I will call his mother and see what she thinks, but I suspect we can just forget about the whole thing.
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Brad.26 February 2010 at 09:11
"Maybe I should wait for Maiyuu to die, shack up with Ball's Mum, and be done with all this gay doubting. Would it work?
"I could be a Daddy to four adult children...and what an odd bunch we would make."
This is the funniest thing I've read in a long time. I broke out laughing, which is rare...albeit good for the soul. Still smiling. Thanks.
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Ripley0126 February 2010 at 09:15
ReplyDeleteHi Bkkdreamer,
I enjoy your blogs in particular about Ball. It is a highlight of my otherwise uneventful (office) day. I admire you for your humanity and your honesty. You confront difficult issues & situations and you don't just shy away from them. Your relationship with Maiyuu is similiar to mine so I can empathise.
I was glad to see you get out of BKK for that day trip - something maybe you should do more often if you can. Try not to procrastinate too much on how or who to spend your money on - its your own hard earned cash.
I suspect Ball has some gay tendencies. If its not you to confront this it will probably be someone else some other day....
I wish you, Maiyuu, and all your new & old friends all the best in your endeavours.
I hope you continue with your blogs.
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Anonymous26 February 2010 at 15:10
'Then have sex with him (Ball) ?' What makes you think Ball would let you grope and fondle his genitals ? Lately he seems to prefer to spend time with his family.. and not you. I think you (BKK) might have become too close to Ball's family to be considered a suitor or sugar daddy.
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Bkkdreamer26 February 2010 at 16:46
Brad: Thank you. Laughter is a good thing. I hope readers do it often when they read this blog, even if they are sometimes laughing at me than they are the material as such.
Ripley01: You are kind. I am pleased the story of Ball still has a few interested readers.
The day trip to the provinces was fabulous, and I want to go on more. I shall have to talk to carer R. He has been on one other trip since we went to Chachaoengsao together, but on that day I wasn't free.
I am never sure about whether Ball has gay tendencies. He is certainly a slight little thing, with fragile, beautiful looks.
Some of his behaviour also holds out promising signs...he will shower himself for an hour, and spend another hour getting dressed. He loves kids. He doesn't seem to mind my touch, and tolerates my presence and own funny ways, despite the fact that he has a girlfriend.
He trusts me, and recall the time vividly when he told me so. I had escorted him to my friend farang C's place, alone and in the dead of night.
He was not scared to enter his condo, or spend time in the company of two big-body foreigners twice his age, because he had me with him.
'I trust you, and know you won't hurt me,' he said.
Trust is too important a thing to ever put at risk. I realise that young people like to experiment, but often they will lack the confidence or experience to initiate things.
However, I am not prepared to put the trust in which he holds me at risk to help him down this path...assuming he even wants it.
It is safer to assume that he is happier with the way he is, and to enjoy his company in other ways.
Anon: The first part of your comment appeared in an anonymous response to this post last night. I deleted it, because I never suggested any of those things myself.
I have been busy at work, so am not spending much time at the ya dong stand lately. But nor is he, it seems...he is spending more time at home, at least according to what I hear. I am delighted with this trend, and hope it continues.
If he wants to spend more time with the girlfriend or his family, great. If he wants to look for work, or play sports rather than throwing back ya dong, even better.
I am not a potential suitor. The idea doesn't interest me. As I have written here many times, I love my BF, and will never let him go.
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hendrikbkk26 February 2010 at 17:46
ReplyDeletePlease continue with your reporting on Ball and his family, it is interesting and entertaining at the same time.
Don't listen too much to all those advisers on relationship, thai culture etc. Let them advise themselves.
I guess the momentum to 'harvest' Ball is gone, if there was such a desire anyhow. As mentioned earlier by you, you have taken up the position of elder sister, how gay is that!
You said earlier you had a plan to bring Ball to Silom but decided against it; it will be nice to see what Ball's reaction is when you show him the hidden world of Silom soi 2 and 4....
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Bkkdreamer26 February 2010 at 18:08
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I shall carry on with the stories of Ball and his family, as our lives together are interesting.
Being elder sister to the lad is more fun, you are right. Sometimes I wish I could tell him how I feel in that role, but maybe there's no need. Perhaps he knows.
I would indeed like to show him Silom. My friend farang C and I have offered to take him. If farang C, who is straight, takes us to the girly places as I am sure he will, I will insist that we pay a visit to Silom soi 4 as well, if only to broaden the lad's horizons.
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