Saturday 20 December 2008

From me, to you: Thanks for the memory


This blog is now going on indefinite leave, as I need a rest. I would like to thank readers for bearing with me this far.

I spend too much time working away at this blog, and not enough with my boyfriend - and I am tired of making the sacrifice.

Boyfriend Maiyuu would rather I kept writing, of course, as he doesn't want my Adsense earnings to dry up.

Regardless, I want a break. Writing this blog gives me an excuse to avoid doing what I must force myself to do in this place if I am to survive: mix with people.

If being nice to people is important in the West, it is even more so here. I look at Thais who have risen up the ladder at my workplace - the ones with the smart cellphones, who glide around social gatherings with ease where others, such as me, might feel awkward.

Some appear to do little else but network and rub shoulders with people of influence. While they are busy partying, grunts like me are left to get on with the work. Or am I being too harsh?

In any event, this decision is really about me. I need to prise the social creature back out of myself before it is too late.

In the West, the social being inside me was much better developed than he is here; in fact, in my last workplace I was a social extrovert.

Here, I have become like a shy Thai thing, which is doing me no favours, as there is always another foreigner or Thai around me who is more aggressive about going after what he wants.

The computer doesn't help, as it gives me an excuse to keep hiding myself away. We are nothing in this life without other people. I shall just have to grin and bear it.

So, here's to the new me. Knock! Knock! Are you still there?

28 comments:

  1. For some time I have thought you needed to focus on yourself, your health, and your needs rather than those of others. I am glad that you have made the decision to do so and wish you the best of luck.

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  2. Though many will miss your comments and insights I can understand your motivation for the change! Best of luck on your new social life!

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  3. Too bad , but wish you all the best. Sure I will mis you, because I was reading your blog weekly for more than two years. But if you can ,let us know one,s a month how you are doing.
    Merry Christmas and Happy new year.

    Fryslân

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  4. And just when I thought I'd found a good thing. (And I did, didn't I?) Your daily blogs have been a refreshing look into another side of farang life.

    How will we know when you're back? [assuming you'll be here again after you've gotten your life back in balance]

    Best wishes in the meantime.

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  5. Good for you for focusing on your own needs.

    I think we'll all still be here when you get back. I'll keep your RSS feed handy.

    cheers!
    Glenn

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  6. Probably the smartest decision you have made, and time will prove it right. It doesn't mean we won't miss you, but at least with this information it brings peace to us as well as you.

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  7. We are all social creatures, its an important element in our lives.

    Wish you and your partner good health and wealth. please give us an update once in a while.

    Take care. Miss you Heaps!

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  8. How sad for your readers .. Wish you and M the best ...

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  9. Blog writing is a compulsion. Hard to give up once you start.

    The chickens will aggravate you and you will need a place to vent.

    We will be waiting....

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  10. What a pity. Your blog is very interesting and seems very honest in your emotions.

    Wish you all the best. Take care.

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  11. Hey I think 2 weeks break is 'phor leow' and come back to blog okay! Have fun with Maiyu!

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  12. What's the melancholy here? It's Christmas, be joyous!

    wish you and maiyuu a merry Christmas and another rich and fruitful year to come.

    Ciao.

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  13. Neil: You are right...the chickens are annoying me, even as I write.

    Was Once: Thank you...we all need to put ourselves first occasionally, even though it is seen as bad form to acknowledge it.

    Twilight Zone: Two weeks might just about do it. I will let you know.

    Anon 1: Another vote for me putting my needs first! Thank you.

    I shall not waste the next two weeks (or however long it takes me to return): I want to go through the blog and fix my English typos.

    Some posts might also need re-writing in part, to improve their readability. I also want to remove dead links.

    I do not have time to pursue such 'labour of love' when I am also meeting daily blogging commitments.

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  14. No! I am so upset. I am a regular reader every single day for years and I will sorely miss your blog. Know that there are hundreds of others just like me that wish you would continue, even if on a less frequent basis. Thanks for the great blogging.

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  15. One other thing, I had never thought of clicking on ads as a way of "voting" whether or not I like the post. I think if you ended every post with something like "Like this post, click an ad to show your support!", I would have clicked them a lot. I think you have a lot of untapped revenue if you simply asked your readers to click the ads more often. I know I certainly would/will.

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  16. ^^ It took me, and I believe a few others, to figure out where and what is this Adsense thingy. They just don't show up on my browser. It must be Firefox who's doing the trick.

    bkkdreamer may consider reminding his loyal readers on this issue too.

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  17. I've never commented before this, more's the pity, but I've really enjoyed reading your blog for the best part of a year now. I'll miss it - hope you come back to it once you've had an appropriate break, but you're certainly right to put yourself first.
    Good luck and may you and Maiyuu thrive and prosper. (I was almost going to say 'live long and prosper' but caught myself just in time :))

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  18. Best of luck to you and Maiyuu. I'll miss your comments as well but if it's time to look after Number One (and Number Two perhaps) then that's what you gotta do. Hope you'll be back, but all the best for a prosperous future.

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  19. Upset Anon: I will probably post less regularly, once I resume. Thank you for your sweet message.

    Re Adsense, Google does not allow us to encourage readers to click ads. I have only suggested once that readers might like to click on ads, and even that was on the proviso that they 'find the ads interesting'.

    Pete: Thank you for your supportive comments. The blog is likely to return, if for no other reason than I have put 2.5 years of work into it, and it would be silly to abandon the thing now.

    However, for the time being I am enjoying not having to worry about it.

    I want to find a good book to read, or find some other way to relax that does not involve writing the blog, if only for a while.

    Merry Christmas!

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  20. Will miss your daily news but nothing can stay the same forever. Wishing you and Maiyu a very happy 2009.

    Richard

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  21. oh..I gonna miss reading your blog. Hope you come back soon. Wishing you a very merry Christmas and also a Happy New Year...sawatdee pee mai...

    Don't forget to come back!!!!

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  22. good luck! but please come back to the 5 & dime jd jd

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  23. i'll miss reading you blog.
    best of luck and enjoy everything you do. i'm sure you'll do it fine.
    please come back when business ends.

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  24. Sadness! I'll be sad not to have this blog to read every night, but I can understand your reasons and decisions. I always thought it was crazy how you managed to update, sometimes multiple times, every single day haha~

    But go for it~ What's the point of living out there if you're just gonna stay huddled up and not go out and enjoy everything Thailand's got to offer? Good luck, and be sure to have plenty of exciting new things to write about when you get back! :P 555+

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  25. I understand and can relate.

    Do Do come back once in a while! No is not an option. :)

    lyn.

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  26. Well, as a daily reader on one hand I am really going to miss your posts but on the other, I am glad and happy for you...go on get out in the world and enjoy yourself!

    You have shared much with us and we could only want nothing but the best for you!

    So, go on step out and enjoy new adventures...as your internet family we would want nothing else for you.

    Merry Christmas!

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  27. merry christmas M and Maiyu..blogging can be tiresome i guess..but at the same time..it's also addictive....

    Wishing you all the best in whatever you choose to do..I'll still come by to visit the blog regardless..

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  28. So Long and thanks for all the blogs.

    but I really hope a break and rest is all you need and you will be back soon with you delightful insights into BKK life and culture.

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