I am a hopeless patient, and hate things getting in my ear. It is much better if ask him to do it rather than attempt such a difficult task myself.
Twice a day, I put my head on his knee, left ear facing upwards - and grip his leg tightly, to prepare myself for the awful sensation when the ear drops fall in my ear.
It tickles, it hurts.
My initial reaction must have seemed extreme to poor Maiyuu, who now counts down before he squeezes the bottle, releasing the solitary drop on its long journey into my sensitive hole.
'One...two...THREE!'
Last night he tried a new variation on the countdown routine.
One..two...two and a half...two and a bit...THREE!'
I hate the drops, but am enjoying the encounters on Maiyuu's lap. When he plays nurse, he's rather cute.
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For those who really want to know, I have left a brief account of my latest argument with the boyfriend in the comments section of the last post. Here's a copy, without the spelling mistakes:
'Maiyuu had taken his I-phone into the repair centre to get them to install a Thai language programme.
'He didn't tell me. The other day while I was out, I called and sent an SMS, but he did not reply.
'When I got home he told me he had sent it away three days ago. I asked why he chose not to tell me.
'He reckoned it wasn't important. I insisted it was, as he could have done anything with it - sold it, lost it - and I would be the last to know. I might also have been calling him urgently.
'He says he is always at home anyway, and there is nothing so important that it can't wait until I get home too.
'He has a point there, but still I would like our communication to improve. I dislike being left in the dark.
'I over-reacted. Maybe it was a bad day.'
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ReplyDeleteWas Once26 May 2009 at 20:52
I thought by now you have learned the Thai way, telling things to you...only on as needed basis. As needed might come after you find out on your own.
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Bkkdreamer26 May 2009 at 20:55
Oh, so true! He considers I might need to know only after I have found out myself what happened.
I told him foreigners aren't like that. We like to plan things and tell each other about what we are doing, as alien as those concepts might sound to Thais.
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Wilko27 May 2009 at 00:37
Even knowing the 'Thai' way as you do, doesn't stop it hurting when someone you love fails to tell you something you really ought to be told. Whether it's trivial or not.
Just as important...are the ear drops working? My father suffered with Mastoids and consequently lost a great deal of his hearing. Please keep up the appointments with the specialists if they're are not!
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Was Once27 May 2009 at 07:24
If you think(wilko) as westerner you will beat your head on the wall. Somethings just don't make sense with our background and trying to form fit a Thai into your(or our) way will only divide you from them. It is not about love they would tell you, and we take little things too damn serious. I am still not a master at this, but I am relaxing where I need to be for my own sake. And guess what? His love comes out with more ease.
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Kevo3327 May 2009 at 09:50
My Thai BF is oblivious to the importance of communication. The last major example was the insurance thing i already told you about. I dont think it's anything we can ever train out of them- it's just who they are, for better or for worse :(
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Anonymous27 May 2009 at 11:47
Getting information out of our Thai BFs is like extracting teeth - difficult and painful. We have to stop expecting them to think like westerners just because they speak good (or not so good) English, or have interacted with farangs. Relax and go with the flow. Besides, doesn't it keep you on your toes? - Ian
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Bkkdreamer27 May 2009 at 19:34
Kevo: I want to devise some means to teach our Thai guys the importance of communicating - hopefully some method which would involve great discomfort or inconvenience to themselves, so they have some idea of what they put us through. I have yet to find it.
Ian: I can't always go with the flow as I need to know, for the sake of peace of mind.
Doing the Zen thing and tuning out from wordly concerns doesn't work for me.
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aaronng8827 May 2009 at 22:13
hope ur ear gets better =)tats so sweetlor =) being thr for u when u needed it, helping u get better.
haha n thx for that pic of me =p
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luanghans28 May 2009 at 15:23
Noticed the mention of ear problems in a few of your posts. I have had ear infections almost annually since age seven. It's been treated with drops, excessive amounts of antibiotics and a number of tubes inserted into my eardrums.
Then a few years ago someone suggested Peroxide. Now I recommend it to anyone with any sort of ear problems.
Use a dropper, fill your ear, and lay down with the ear up for about 15 minutes. It tickles, it gurgles, makes funny noises while it's working.
Three or for once a day applications and the problem is solved until next time.
This could possibly be effective in your case.
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Bkkdreamer28 May 2009 at 18:37
Aaron: You are a beautiful lad; Whno wouldn't want to post pics of you? Thank you for the ear thoughts.
Yes, it is good to have a boyfriend close by when you are sick and in need of help with administering medicine, or just plain comfort.
I hope you have someone to look after you in that strange land, too. By the looks of it, you have plenty of friends.
Luanghans: Thank you for the peroxide advice, which one or two other readers have mentioned here. I shall ask my chemist how often it is used, and if I can buy it here.
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