Wednesday 23 September 2009

Visit to the 'real' Thailand

Wat Sang Krajai
I went to see a foreigner friend who lives in a remote part of town, near Sang Krajai temple in Issaraphap Rd.

It took me only 45mins to reach it, but then I set off in the middle of the day. My friend, farang M, lives with his Thai girlfriend at a house owned by her boss, a property owner in the Khao San Rd area.

This was my first trip across the river to see any friends in the six months since I moved from the Thon Buri side of town to our new place close to the city centre.

Farang M, 48, who is in poor health, looked little different than the last time I saw him, which is a good thing.

However, his house and garden were in a shabby state. ‘The owner rarely comes to do the garden, and I am not strong enough to handle it myself,’ he complained.

Farang M does not work, so lives on his girlfriend’s meagre earnings as a receptionist. We have known each other for years, since the days when Mum’s shop in Thon Buri, where we used to socialise, was still a busy place.

Back in those days, farang M lived just down the road from Mum’s shop. Since then he has moved, so rarely sees it.

In fact, he seldom gets out at all, as he doesn’t have the money.

'I met my girlfriend in that area about a week ago, as it happens. She was coming home from a trip to see her family in the provinces. It was my first time out in five weeks,’ said farang M.

We sat in his overgrown garden, drinking whisky and watching the sun go down. A storm came and went, and I left for home.

The main road outside his place looked dilapidated, as if it was barely holding up against the recession. But the Thais I met were charming.

On my way to farang M’s place, I dropped in to a store to buy a bottle of whisky. The young man serving me asked where I came from.

‘I live in town, but I come here to see a friend,’ I told him. I also chatted briefly to his Mum, who gave me directions.

Later, as I went to fetch a Coke, a young man in another shop held up one finger of one hand, and two fingers from another.

He couldn't, or wouldn't speak English, so sign language had to do. ‘What’s that – 30 baht?’ I asked him.

He laughed and turned to a guy sitting behind a computer. As I left, I saw him tell his friend about our small encounter.

As I waited for a taxi home, I parked myself in front of another shop, where three youngsters in their late teens were chatting. They smiled, and one said hello.

Before moving to our new place, I contemplated looking for a house to rent in this neighbourhood. I decided against, as it is even further away from my office than was my old condo, itself a good 30-minute's bus ride away.

The road is barely wide enough to walk down, and in peak hour is packed. However, the temple is attractive, and the atmosphere lively.

Youngsters gather in hairdresser’s shops or email cafes. Issaraphap Rd is close to several tertiary outlets, so the place has a vibrant ‘demographic’.

Families live in shophouses, which have a basic shop on street level, and sleeping quarters above. When they get home from school, many youngsters help Mum and Dad run the shop.

It is very different from the safe, middle-class neighbourhood I inhabit, where neighbourhood dogs mill about more often than the well-heeled residents.

‘I’ll come back again soon, as this place is fun,’ I told farang M.

His neighbourhood feels a world away from my concerns at home or work - more like the 'real' Thailand which I came here to experience nine years ago, but which lately appears to have slipped through my grasp.

2 comments:

  1. 11 comments:

    Anonymous22 September 2009 at 21:02
    Nice post. What is the meaning of the young man sign with the figers? The boy in the picture is so handsome, like a Michaelangelo painting. Thanks,
    Fran

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    Bkkdreamer22 September 2009 at 22:32
    Thank you, Fran. It's sign language. He was trying to tell me the price without saying the words. I've added a brief explanation.

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    Jok23 September 2009 at 18:57
    I wish more farangs would learn to accept thailand, or any other country that they wish to live in, like you do.

    sadly, many after staying awhile in another country, think they have the citizen's right to criticise it, and insist that it changes the way it does things and/or the way it is being run, which reminds of the lyrics of a song that goes something like...
    "For the strangers came and tried to teach us their ways,
    They scorn'd us just for being what we are;
    But they might as well go chasing after moonbeams,
    Or light a penny candle from a star."

    i think thais are fast getting very, very tired of being looked down upon by such condescending, patronising, foreigners who still believe that they must be kowtowed to.

    no farang, i'm sure, would like it if any foreigner were to do that in their own country. so all should practise "when in thailand, do as the thais do", or leave. chai mai?

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  2. Bkkdreamer24 September 2009 at 08:04
    Thank you, Jok. I suspect most Thais don't care what farang think, which is as it should be, as this place is much bigger than them.

    I used to get annoyed by foreigners who spread anti-Thai cynicism on the net. Now I just click elsewhere, because my world is much bigger than them, too.

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    Anonymous24 September 2009 at 10:39
    Chai mai Jok. If the sleazy sex tourists cancel their visit, who cares? If the complaining farang living in Thailand go home, good riddance. That means more room for the rest of us who appreciate Thais and their country. - Ian

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    Anonymous24 September 2009 at 20:52
    Though H1N1 flu is not being passed around in Thailand, I see narrow mindedness certainly is.

    In my country, and I guess in many of the countries of the contributos to this blog, "foreigners" are not only allowed to express their dissent with the way their host country is run, but also allowed to participate in the country political life.

    Under EU rule, any "foreigner" is given the right to vote in any election after 5 years of legal residence and to be elected for a local council after 10. Not to mention the benefits of acquiring permanent residence/nationality should one wish to do so.

    I guess coming here as a foreigner with the opportunities/education/level of income that it usually entitles is very different from growing up here an facing all the disadvantes of a basically unequal society. I bet all this people would have a different opinion if they were on the thai side of the fence. Maybe they would appreciate some people helping change things a little bit.

    I used to live in London, where a slogan that read "If you are in London and you care, you are a Londoner" was posted all over.
    Here it is more "If you are in Thailand, please leave your cash at the entrance and shut up". I am just a bit perplexed that this view is backed by posters to this forum.

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    Anonymous25 September 2009 at 02:24
    The point of my previous comment was that the biscuits are tuile (pronounced tweel) not tuilee which I think could only exist in French with an acute accent on the first e and which would then be pronounced tweelay.

    Yours pedantically

    Celeste 33

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    Anonymous25 September 2009 at 02:54
    I am just a bit perplexed that this view is backed by posters to this forum.

    Used to be, in Europe, that there were classes of society and everyone "knew their place" The posters just know their place in Thai society.

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    Bkkdreamer25 September 2009 at 03:18
    Celeste 33: Spelling error corrected. Thank you.

    I saw the Thai word first, in a Thai cookbook which Maiyuu uses, and worked backwards from there.

    I took a guess at the spelling in English, but was wrong.

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    Bkkdreamer25 September 2009 at 03:21
    Regarding the foreigners versus Thais debate...

    I suspect Thais are arriving at a new accommodation in their view of foreigners, hastened in part, perhaps, by the recession.

    I don't know how they will end up treating foreign residents here, but I think foreigners have little to complain about at present.

    Comparisons with the West are always hazardous; Thailand is a developing country, so foreigners can hardly expect the same treatment.

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    Jok26 September 2009 at 03:50
    Thais, like in many parts of Asia would treat all foregners well, provided the foreigners behave themselves. Courtesy begets courtesy and pompous, chest thumping acts should never be tolerated. I'm also very certain, no western country would show me, an asian, the level of courtesy and respect the Thais have all along been showing to farangs. So to all those loud, bullying farangs I say please stop all the sickening, bratish behavior and respect your host country; there are many foreigners who love Thailand for what she is and would not, even for one second, think of changing any part of their culture just to suit themselves.

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