Saturday, 20 February 2010
Finding work for Thais: Instant rewards
What do we do with these Thais who won’t help themselves?
I have found work at my company for Mr Ball, but he is reluctant to pursue it.
Ball’s mother, friends, even Ball himself, asked if I could contact someone at my office on his behalf. Was there any work going?
Ball has been out of work for weeks, and his family could do with the money.
I knew where I should look, but didn’t know the name of the section head.
I asked a staff member in the trade field who I found hanging around the motorcycle taxi queue near work.
‘Call Mr A,’ he said.
I asked a Thai colleague in the administration section if he knew this man A.
No, but he gave me the number of someone who might.
Next, I asked a senior Thai colleague on my floor, with whom I work every night, if he had heard of A.
No, but he knew a woman working five metres away, who had many friends in that section.
She gave me the name and number of the section head. Actually, she did much more.
She called the man himself, and asked him if there were any work opportunities going.
‘Yes...we need casual, part-time workers. But if he does well, we could take him on as a permanent, full-time member of staff,’ he said.
‘Bring him in tomorrow, and he can take a look around,’ he said.
The next day, I took Ball in for a job interview. The section head showed us around the workroom floor, and explained what was involved.
‘Come back tomorrow at 8.30am,’ he told Ball.
Half an hour later, we were back at Ball’s place. I was lamenting the fact that the work was actually piecemeal...judging by what I was told at the interview, on some days, he may get none at all.
I shouldn’t have worried. Twenty minutes later, the section head called me. ‘If he wants to full-time work, there’s enough work for him here every day,’ he said.
The interview was stressful, even for me. Little surprise if, after the interview was over, Ball should repair to carer R’s ya dong stand. He spent the next five hours drinking there.
I worried he would not be able to make his first day at work, so after I finished my own work duties that evening, ventured into the slum area to visit him.
‘Go home,’ I said.
Even at that hour, four or five customers were still drinking.
A man in his early 30s, Na, who lives nearby and delivers fish to markets for a living, said he would take Ball along to my workplace on his first day, so he wouldn't have to go alone.
He and Ball had been chatting all night, discussing one cunning plan or another.
‘Can you recommend me for work, too?’ he asked.
Ball’s friends, including A, had heard that he was on the cusp of getting a good job, and wanted a slice of the action.
If the farang could find a job for Ball, he might be able to find work for them as well.
‘I’m not recommending you for anything if Ball himself fails to show up. I will suffer loss of face,’ I said.
I went home promptly, and spent a restless night worrying about whether he would rise in time.
Early next morning, I called Ball's mother and asked for permission to visit. Ball was still sleeping. No surprise that Na had failed to show: his promise to pick up Ball at home was just drinking talk.
We had 90 minutes to get him ready for work.
I called to him from outside his room. ‘Get up...you have a job to go to!’ I said.
His elder sister Kae, who was in the next room, was more assertive.
‘Your farang friend is standing here, waiting. Have some respect! If you don’t want to go, say so. But stop all this messing around!’ she said.
Ball emerged, looking sheepish. He took a shower, dressed himself in a pair of black slacks and a ragged white collared shirt.
I took him outside to find a motorcycle taxi who would take him to work.
‘I feel sick,’ said Ball.
‘You drank too much,’ I said.
I gave him B100 for the day, and a bag of fruit, and saw him off on his motorbike.
At 2pm, I called his mother. I could not stop worrying. Had he met any friends? How was the work going?
‘Oh, Ball didn’t stay. They told him to come back tomorrow, as the boss wasn’t there,’ she said.
Ball had been home for hours, but no one had bothered to call me.
I went to see him.
‘I have thought of you all day,’ I said. ‘I’m stressed.’
‘In a way, it’s a good thing that there was no work for me today, as I felt ill,’ said Ball, who repaired to the toilets soon after getting to his destination. He was so sick, he vomited.
‘I won’t drink today, and will get an early night to be ready for work tomorrow,’ he promised.
Ball would need more clothes, I thought, if he was about to re-enter the full-time workforce.
Late yesterday, I bought him some underwear, and asked a woman in the market close to my office where I could find work trousers and shirts.
She told me where to walk, but I put off the purchase until later, as I didn’t have time.
I called Ball’s Mum late in the evening. ‘We’re having something to eat. He didn’t go drinking,’ she said.
Relief! He might just get there after all.
I dropped his underwear and another bag of fruit into his place about 12.30am. His brother, Beer, answered the door. He was up, watching football alone.
‘Ball is asleep,’ he said.
More good news.
Today, I called about 7.30am, to make sure Ball was up.
‘Ball says your company can’t offer full-time work. He’s decided to look elsewhere. His friend, Na, says he’ll take him to apply somewhere else,’ she said, admitting that Ball's job search drama was giving her a headache.
Na must have contacted Ball last night while I was at work.
'What?' I said, shocked. 'He's due at the office in an hour!'
Mum asked if she could call me back. Five minutes later, she had succeeded in raising her son. We spoke by phone.
‘I want to go with Na instead,’ he said firmly.
‘We will talk about this later,’ I said curtly, hanging up the phone.
I sent a stiffly-worded text message to his mother, and followed it up with another phone call.
‘You asked me to find work for Ball, but today, the first day he is supposed to report to the office, he tells me he is not interested.
'My colleagues have gone to some effort; at least two senior staff say have volunteered to look after your son on my behalf.
‘I never asked them for such generosity; all I wanted was a contact name and number. But my colleagues have gone out of their way to help.
'Your son, however, now tells me he would rather look somewhere else,’ I said.
Mum sounded weak and resigned. I felt sorry for her.
‘I would like your permission to visit Ball this afternoon, so we can talk,’ I said.
Mum has agreed.
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12 comments:
ReplyDeleteAnonymous20 February 2010 at 02:16
Time to cut this loser adrift before he brings you down to his level.
You can't help him if he can't help himself.
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Yraen20 February 2010 at 02:29
I know you care for this young man but you are following the thump of your heart instead of the beat of your brain. Start thinking instead of emoting.
Ball is a drop-kick and a drunk. Yaba is probably not that far away. Let him go. Let him succeed or fail on his own. You cannot help him. (If you want to fuck him, then that's fine; afterwards give him B500 and cut him lose.)
Consider, he has placed you and your job in jeopardy by causing you to lose face.
Y
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Asia in Australia20 February 2010 at 05:52
The wonders of Thailand....you have gone to considerable length in trying to help this young man. Yet you can not replace his family though because we will always remain farang, as long as we stay there.
Time to focus on Maiyuu again, take him out to the provinces or go out to a nice restaurant with him instead of buying the other man undies and what not. He is trapped between feeling krieng jai, his own confusion and and his troubled family and I am sorry to say but we farangs cant help.
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Bkkdreamer20 February 2010 at 06:07
Asia In Australia:
Thanks for your comment.
The question is not about whether foreigners trying to help Thais remain foreigners or not; of course they do.
The challenge is whether I can make him think differently about his future and his responsibilities to himself and his family, despite the temptations which the ya dong stand holds, and the general state of apathy he finds around himself at home.
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hendrikbkk20 February 2010 at 06:23
I truly admire your efforts for young Ball, in that respect you are a real gentleman, but like others, I think Ball is a bit of a lost case and doesnt appreciate what you do for him. Even if he shows up for work on time the first days, he will fail later for sure.
BTW Did carer payed back the THB500?
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Bkkdreamer20 February 2010 at 06:43
Hendrik: Thank you.
Ball is casual about what the people in his life do to help. He's young, so I can forgive him that to some extent, but the quality of communication between members of his fanmily is poor. Impressing upon him the importance of this or that is hard.
Yes, carer R did pay back the B500. If he hadn't, we would be having 'issues'!
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Anonymous20 February 2010 at 11:04
ReplyDeleteI feel bad for you, your efforts are admirable but l think you should stop trying to help Ball. lt's obvious he's more interested in drink than work. l really dont think you're going to change that. Stay friends of course but l should stay out of trying to help it's just going to end in heartache!
Wilks xx
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TAO20 February 2010 at 13:44
obviously Na scandalized you because you did not offer him a job along with Ball...oh and Thai's will stick together!
You have done your best and its time to move on and make a difference someplace where a difference will make a difference...
Ball has a woman, he has alchol and a group of friends...he can handle the verbal beratings just fine...
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Anonymous20 February 2010 at 15:54
BKK, everyone saw this coming but you. This is a diminishing returns scenario.. the money you spend on shirts and underwear is not important.. but your un-rewarding emotional investments and your loss of face at work are adding up. Continue along this path if your goal is to keep your readers involved and entertained. I'm still not certain that this dog and pony show isn't your literary creation. Sort of a Tales of the City.. Bangkok style.
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Orn20 February 2010 at 16:38
Ball is a hopeless case. But I don't think that's entirely his fault because from the look of it. He's had a hard life, and I don't think anyone ever taught him about discipline and morals.
Trying to help someone like Ball would probably be very hard work. But I must admit, reading about him has been very entertaining. I can't wait for the next update!
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Bkkdreamer20 February 2010 at 17:54
TAO: When something serious happens, I ask Ball for a talk.
He sits next to me, away from the crowd and prying ears. I ask him things; he answers.
Ball knows there is a pattern to our little talks. Sometimes, he even puts on a special sensitive 'voice', as he thinks he knows what I want to hear.
However, he is not calculating on the whole. He is still a good kid, and I believe in him, despite the occasional disappointment.
Anon: No literary creation; it's all true. I would love to bring readers a picture of him (and Maiyuu too, for that matter), but I write too much personal stuff here. Identifying them would be unfair.
You mention unrewarding emotional investments, and loss of face at work. The last one can be overcome, and doesn't worry me too much. As for the emotional investments, there is no doubt that I invest far more in our friendship than does Ball. But then he is just 19, and I can't expect too much.
I tell Ball that I just want him to be happy. I wonder how much longer that sentiment will last.
Orn: I know he must look a sad case to readers of the blog who don't know him, but really he is not that bad. Ball has many good qualities, despite the benighted state of his family circumstances.
His elder sister and brother are also good people (his younger brother is still in kid mode, so I have no idea about him).
Given the limitations they face, I am amazed how well they are turning out.
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ironbark20 February 2010 at 19:17
ReplyDeleteAs much as you may hate to admit it he is not Eliza and you cannot be his Prof. Higgins.
He clearly has a drinking problem and there is only one direction he can take from here... down, down, down.
It is sad, he sounds so beautiful and nice otherwise but there is some people that just cannot be helped.
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