It sounds like a tease, but is intended as a compliment. 'When I turned around, the young guy was smiling at me,' says the Thai, who calls himself Dominamia. He left his story at the Pantip webboard.
'Nothing about the guy's appearance suggested he was gay.'
A couple of days later, the same thing happened again. At Suan Lumpini Night Bazaar, he walked past a couple of teens seated on a bench. The moment he passed them, he heard the same word: 'Cute!'
'I turned around to identify the source of the sound, to see if they were referring to me. Sure enough, the same thing had happened again.
'No woman has ever complimented me on my appearance like that,' says Dominamia, who describes his looks as average.
'If a woman had said that to me, I'd be pleased...I might smile in return, or thank her. But to have guys say it...I wasn't sure how to respond, and feel confused.'
He asks what he should do if it happens a third time. 'If I turn around and smile, would they jump on me and drag me away?'
A couple of readers who left messages in response said similar things had happened to them. 'I live in a dorm. A pack of kathoey who pass me on the work say that to me every day.'
From other readers:
'Don't let yourself become gay!'
'Are you wearing clothes or a bag which take the fancy of gays?'
'You probably suit the specs of the gay set. Are you wearing tight-fitting clothes? Too much make-up?'
'Cute!'
If someone thinks you are "cute" take it as a compliment and "go with the flow"; be happy that others find you attractive. Not everyone in the world is nor will you always be "cute"! It is the insecure guy who let's himself get all worked up because a gay guy notices them and is attracted to them. Tolerance of others and an ability to appreciate that we live in a world of infinite diversity and beauty - which includes "cute" guys and gals - is just one facet of it. My advice, be too mature to allow yourself to be upset; let the insecure guys - who secretly are probably afraid they are gay - worry about it.
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