Here's an invitation to the Shrink, a regular critic of this blog's author.
I like the way the Shrink writes - he has a fluent, convincing and easy-to-read style which would not look out of place on this blog.
Are you interested in leaving accounts of your life in the Land of Smiles?
Maybe we can compare.
6 comments:
ReplyDeleteAsia in Australia5 April 2009 at 19:58
Well, leaving some super-smart comments about your boyfriend and you as well as my psychological state of denying something and having grown up in a bad family, he hasnt written anything about himself and his life in Thailand, no?
And that's what we would be rather interested in...
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Was Once5 April 2009 at 21:22
Naming your "disease" does not really help, on the other hand if he offered a way to a cure would show a positive intent.
Being gay people we have few positive role models, and growing up in a societies where it still ok to hate us leads us to a form of self-hatred. It takes quite a lot to grow out of this, with a tough shell and and open heart. I posted about his fact in my blog in the past, that it actually affects our relationships and careers.
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Bkkdreamer6 April 2009 at 05:12
BB: I agree, he should tell us something about himself. Then we could judge him and his choices for a change.
I could tell you what I think his life is probably like, but then what is the point? It would be mere speculation, which The Shrink would dismiss as 'lying'.
Was Once: His cure would be for me to toss the BF, get counselling, and start again.
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Anonymous6 April 2009 at 08:57
I must decline your kind offer for the moment for several reasons:
1. Personal circumstances are quite busy for me at this time- in fact, I may not be following this blog much for a few weeks.
2. The last time I attempted to offer a brief moment from my personal life (you will recall, it was regarding my date with a nice young man in which he came on a bus to meet me, and left the same way after we saw a movie), you rather histrionically blew it up into some kind of announcement that I was some kind of sex-obsessed person who 'liked to have sex on the first date,' as if that is a fault. Furthermore, you have characterised me in other critical posts as someone who probably "has a different young English-speaking boy in his bed every night," or something pretty close to that- which must be projection, as far as I can tell, since it is not based on reality or on anything I have said.
All of this came from you without any kind of real information on which to base these alarming and hateful remarks- I think I mentioned in the story of my date that my friend spoke nearly no English, for instance, and in fact we did not have sex that time.
3. Furthermore when I look at your response to comments on this post, this bit really shows us what you are thinking about:
"Then we could judge him and his choices for a change."
You don't want my input, really- you've done everything you can to avoid it- though at heart you know I am right. I'm afraid that your past reactions to any imagined information about me or attempts to characterise me through falsehoods have not been stable, reliable, or mature enough for me to trust your judgment in any further sharing. You only want some other angle through which to attempt to marginalise my opinions, because you resent me for telling the truth- especially as it seems you are no friend of the truth.
As far as helping you- no one can help you. I certainly can't, and perhaps my attempts to give you an outside perspective on what you are actually saying are only causing some kind of adolescent resistance to being 'told what to do' in you.
Only you can help you, and I have been trying to convince you to take some steps in that regard. I would recommend that you see a counsellor, of course. Beyond that, if you make progress, I think you will take care of the details yourself.
Of course, you are probably too happy to be bothered with any of that.
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ReplyDeleteAnonymous6 April 2009 at 09:06
Oh, I'll try again: the 'cure,' as another poster requested, is that BKKD learn to love himself. But if he doesn't understand what that means and isn't equipped to do it, he's going to need highly skilled help- I really wish him the best of luck at it, because he clearly has lots of potential.
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Kevo336 April 2009 at 18:33
I'm not sure i understand why you would value any contributions from this "shrink"
I value this blog for the stories of Thailand and your relationship. If the blog shifted its purpose, im not sure it would be as interesting...
"Shrink" :
Would you agree that typically in human memory the negative tends to make a deeper impact than the positive? For that reason personal blogs often lean toward a negative note, especially when discussing relationship details. Let's face it, everyone has relationship problems.
For this reason, i think it is fairly pathetic for you to constantly attack BKK and assume he is completely unhappy and in need of professional help.
Also, this "lots of potential" you speak of BKK as possessing- What is that supposed to imply? Potential of what, exactly? He seems perfectly happy in many ways just the way he is. His problems seem just like most people's. Furthermore, he has stated before that he has earned his money and has been professionally successful in the west. Im simply not sure what other types of "potential" remain which he hasn't already taken advantage of.
My opinion is if BKK enjoys his humble life in Thailand with BF Maiyuu, lets leave it at that.
It is easy for you to harp on every detail presented in this blog, when you are in no risk of similar scrutiny. We know nothing about you under the heroic tag "Anonymous"
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